I see a terribly hurt and confused person reaching out here just trying to be heard and supported. ML is venting and trying to make sense of the brutal hand she has recently been dealt. I don't see ML asking for advice or feedback on what she did that we perceive as being wrong. I know intentions are good but some of the posts here are more than likely doing nothing more than pouring salt into a deep, fresh cut wound.

To point out what ML might have done wrong, what she needs to do, or what she should be feeling, is a method for filling your own needs. That doesn't sound like good support to me.