I think therapy is tricky exactly because good therapy involved love from both sides, it is a relationship of trust where one is working on growing into trust and openess. the trouble is, often the client will do as asked, open up (eventually) and love and feel tremendous vulnerability, but the therapist can walk out at any time it seems. No matter how damaging it may by to the client.
And it is abusive and damaging
My ex T USED his father's death as an excuse to get something he wanted, = OUT. Out without having to do uncomfortable or exhausting or emotional 'ending sessions' with clients.
He knows he saw his chance and jumped at it. He knows I also know that. But if he presents the 'poor me' story to his colleagues , of course they are going to go with him and his story. He is currently working four days a week at his three day a week contract job. he is hardly curled up under his duvet. He is a pathetic excuse of a man. I saw someone who looked like him today and I am felt revulsion.
That most certainly does not bode well for if we do have to meet up any time soon. I think any plan to try to do an ending would have to be a few months down the line or I might kick him where it hurts if I do see him.
I also suspect that at the rate I am going, I shall never want to see him again ever and have to work out this anguished catastrophic damaging toxic ending on my own. ***** him.
He should really be struck off, not for the therapy he gave me - most of it good - but for the sh*tty ending where he shirked all responsibility and let them treat me like something he stepped in. For that he should rot in hell.
ooops. I am ranting again. I keep trying not to, but it is hard.