You sound very intelligent, self aware and level headed. You need to move at your own pace. When it came to matters of the heart, I always jumped in blind and often ended up in a painful belly flop. Your anxiety is telling you something...listen to it and go as slow as you need. I usually introduced the guys I dated to my parents on the first date, but like I said....I didn't let my intellect do the talking. Good luck and enjoy the butterflies and fun.