Wow, what an awful experience--why would they string you along like that? for money or something? it sounds extremely weird and upsetting. I once had an online "friendship" that turned out badly and was very troubling to me, I think the emotional attachments we feel are real but the people in question sometimes not what we think. I'm sorry that your T didn't get the gravity of the situation. Maybe if you can talk about it at greater length, what your feelings are about it, she may be more useful.