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Old Nov 01, 2016, 07:03 AM
Sarmas Sarmas is offline
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Originally Posted by firecracker09 View Post
has anyone chosen to take a break from therapy after a rupture with their therapist? more specifically, have you gotten into a conflict so bad that you decided to "ghost"?

if so, how long? did your therapist contact you? how was it going back?
I've had a rupture about 3 months ago. I didn't quite ghost. The rupture was via email and text. Then due to her responses I decided to stop therapy. I've had probably three therapy breaks in 4 years. This time I worded it differently and I said that I'm stopping sessions. Before I would categorize it as break. Three out of the four times she would try to talk me through it. I haven't heard from her since and I don't expect to. She doesn't work that way. She gets defensive with me in session and I believe she wants to feel needed or wanted. Therefore if I haven't shown the want to come back then she will not "force" the issue. Every therapist is different. She had cheated throughout the years herself in the way she handles situations. I'm not sure if that's particular to me. Some therapist don't believe in "pushing" therapy a or seeking out those clients that have taken a break. Although we might think that it's the proper or professional thing to do it doesn't quite work that way. Again every therapist is different so perhaps your therapist might work differently.