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Originally Posted by ElsaMars
You are right, I was unclear. English is not always my strong suit. My experience with this topic dates back to around 1998. Some of it is personal and some of it is based on the experiences of others in a group setting. 2 of my best friends cousins went through it and I've watched a documentary as well as spoken with doctors. What is your expertise? The OP said they have a porn addiction and couldn't be turned on by their GF. I asked a legitimate question and had the question be thoroughly explored and answered, we might not be having this discussion as my intent would have been clearer I suppose. The only thing I'm an expert in is my own experience. I'm a women and my situation was much different from the OP's but I have been exploring this topic long enough to have more than just an educated guess. I've spoken with men with a similar problem in depth.
In a perfect world we would all be turned on by our significant others at all times. I asked the OP a question and stated I could say no more past that until I had an answer. A porn addiction is a legitimate health problem with real life consequences. I'm familiar with many of them and thought I could help.
I will be clearer with my language and stop expecting people to give me the benefit of the doubt. It's not fair to them or to myself.
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Honestly I don't want to detract from the original intent of this thread but thank you for your thorough explanation. in no way am I saying that this particular problem of porn addiction does not exist, but as everything I come from the attitude that many many things like addictions, MI, PDs and such are abused as terms and descriptions of things. While most things like addictions to various things are based on legitimate cases, many times the abuse comes from the misuse of descriptions of different problems people have. I tend to be ever vigilant against generalizations about most things and you know you've come across that with me in past posts :P get used to it (jk jk) it's just how I am though.
I speak from experience myself. Life experience, being a male, I have male friends and many of which partake of the forbidden fruit yet at the same time, they are quite capable and willing to be sexually active with their partners. but I will admittedly say that none of them also are diagnosed with an addiction to It either.
Again my statements were against the idea that porn itself automatically affects people in the manner you originally stated, not that it can't affect anyone that way.