I'd rather someone show me kindness from a place of authenticity and without being asked to do so, and not because they feel obligated either out of guilt, or because I was brought to their attention and made as a charity case.

Besides, receiving authentic and genuine kindness is a far greater feeling than making the person feel they have to be kind out of guilt or whatnot. It's just better.

I feel that those who like to be pitied don't often know what it's like to receive that genuine and authentic kindness, otherwise they wouldn't be so starved for such that they find being pitied to feel rewarding and all.