Thank you so much. You see, NO ONE has validated me for this. I mean you are the FIRST. My family and friends did not help even when I begged for help. They either ignored what was happening or did a blame the victim thing, like it was my fault. Finally, it was getting extremely bad and I realized I would have to take care of the thing myself. And I was dealing with a maniac. I mean someone who was capable of escalating violence. My neighbors were advising me to get a gun! It was a nightmare. I just took a strong stand and he backed off but kept stalking, and he believed I would never move, because I loved where I lived. But I did. I took a stand, then I moved, because I didn't want to just run away. Just talking about it kind of pisses me off because I lost a lot. But I avoided violence. Women should know that if a man is a psycho there may very well be escalating violence. I hired an online counselor who specialized in this kind of thing. Yes, women think crazy crap like they still love the psycho, or that they are the crazy one. I hope others read this thread. Yeah, so thank you because besides this psychiatrist I saw you are the first person to validate my experience. Well, with one other exception. I wrote a poem about getting free and it was published in a book. Unfortunately, the book was in German, but they are hoping for an English translation in the future. (No, I don't speak German.)