I'll tip toe around this thread when I say this.

You're considering ending a relationship with your bf because his dad is a *******?

My parents are probably one of the biggest racists on the planet ... oh boy don't get me started ... and as for my grandparents - they were all part of the apartheid era.

But it's not a reflection what so ever on who I am, and it shouldn't be a reflection on who your bf is. I don't get a sense that you've heard racist comments from him.

Thing is, no one can change your bf's father. He is who he is. It's not going to make a difference at this stage what anyone says to him about his racists ways; not his wife; not your bf. Some people just have no tact or culture and clearly he is one of them.

Maybe you need your feelings to be more acknowledged by your bf?

Thing is, your bf could intervene every time his father goes off on racist tirades, but how is that going to solve anything? It isn't. Personally if it was me, I'd like to think my bf would say something.

I would think that you need to have a good, long upfront conversation with your bf and tell him how you're feeling. I wouldn't personally "end it cold" or so to speak until you can have a heart to heart about all of this with your bf.

There must be some kind of half way medium you and your bf can come to that both of you agree on and are comfortable with. Some strategies you can put in place for when his father comes over or what to do when his father goes on this rants. If your bf can't agree with this, then yes you can consider plan B which is walking away.