Pilarlina -

I felt I had to respond and second Wants2Fly's recommendation: get to a counselor. While getting advice from uninvolved parties here in the forum is a good start, you need to go talk to someone in person as well. They do not know the situation and have no bias.

Other than that, you already stated the answer. If Jon is unwilling to see the problem with his behavior, and thus unwilling to get any help / do anything about it, he will never change. If he believes how he treated that dog is acceptable, and undoubtedly believes how he has treats you is okay, then you need to get as far away from this man as humanly possible. Would that be seemingly impossible for you? You bet. But, while you may be able to handle his abuse, you do not need to.

But for now, continue getting the support you need. I believe you can build up a support network that will allow you to get out of this abusive relationship.

Good luck and keep us posted!

R