unfortunately it wasnt as easy as when and where with me and those that I know who have DID. many people with DID have no control over when and where their alters "pop out"

for example whether my alters took control any time I had a dissociative reaction to a trigger. example everytime there was a rain storm Rainy took control because thats what her sense of agency was. it didnt matter if I was in elementary school, high school, a college class, at work at home with friends alone or not alone. having DID affected every aspect of my life not just when I was sitting home alone. I and my alters had no choice over the when and where a trigger was encountered, one time I and who is now my wife, were in line to see a broadway show. it started to thunder and lightening, we ended up having to leave without seeing Annie on broadway due to I dissociated and the resulting alter that took control was rainy, there I was in the midst of a whole line of adults saying go home noow go home now time to go home now rain rain go away time to go home now time to go home now home home lets go home its raining its pouring the old man is storing, went to bed and bumped his head and couldnt get up in the morning lets go home.

my point most people that I know with DID have no control over when and where they dissociate, and which alter takes control, for many its based on their dissociation triggers and the alters sense of agency. for many that I know with DID including me what made it possible to behave like an adult was work on those issues that resulted in having DID to begin with and eventually the alters all merged together to become one whole person again.