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Originally Posted by lolagrace
Of course, what one has to figure out is whether the therapist is really bringing in their own issues and putting you in that position, or, like longingforhome said, are you simply perceiving that to be the situation because you are in a habit of caretaking? I can see it going either way.
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That's a great point. I think in my case it is the latter. I can never quite tell how much of it is my fault. Sometimes it's hard to know what to expect healthy therapy to look like. But then I think it invariably mirrors our other relationships in life.
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Originally Posted by BudFox
I unconsciously held back telling the last one how destructive the relationship was becoming, for fear of hurting her. But she was complicit in this. She was seeking need gratification just like me and was telegraphing this in various ways. Most of them are probably in the job to satisfy a need-to-be-needed complex. Two-way street.
Looking back it's all so convoluted.
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I've had this happen, then me feeling addicted to being needed as well. It is a mess and probably never therapeutic.
Weirdly I understand what it means when a therapist depends on me but I'm still working on understanding what it means to depend on a therapist. I don't usually have any significant feelings about T's. Then the one case I did it was like, apocalyptic, crazy codependency.
Guess I'm just personally too used to feeling needed. All my friends say I should be a T.