Can anyone relate to this? I feel like I have no "good" reason to be unhappy, yet I'm having a hard time getting out of bed; I'm always sleepy; I'm constantly moping; I'm crying daily.
About 18 months ago I was unemployed. I was for almost a year and it was hard. (One of the worst phases in my life.) Before I was laid off I was working in a very stressful job I hated so up until now, my work life hasn't been good. I'm all settled at my current job and it's pretty much a dream. Decent pay. No stress. Short commute. Great hours. Good team. I also have time to take a few courses as I plan to obtain a much (2x) higher paying job in the next few years. How many people have the luxury of getting paid to prepare for a better paying job? Not many.
My social life has also improved. I've always had friends, but I'm a bit closed off. I've had a friend since public school whom I adore. I've wanted to open up to her for years (until recently I've always kept her at a distance) and when I finally took the plunge it all paid off: We're closer than ever and she's the first best friend I've had in years. Anyone who's a little withdrawn and closed off from friends will understand just how big this step was for me. I'm finally that affectionate and loving friend I've always wanted to be.
I play competitive soccer. It's more than a hobby. It's a lifestyle. I play/practice 3-4x/week so it's what keeps me social as well as active. For the last 3 years I've been fighting for my spot on the team. I've been paranoid I won't be asked to play when the indoor or outdoor seasons start and that I'd be left with no team. Things have worked out in this area of my life as well and I now fit in well enough with my team that I feel secure. I'm also being put in the position I want to play so all of my hard work has paid off. I'm closer to a few other girls on the team as well. Before, I always felt like just a teammate. Now, I'm a friend as well.
Things with my relationship are awesome. I got married in the summer and my husband is simply the best. We've opened a joint savings account and I get to see the balance go UP. Him and I are also in a really good place with each other, our families, etc.
The only things that have gone "wrong" are completely fixable, but it's like I'm STUCK on them. My wedding photos turned out horrible and it's all my fault. I had a great photographer, but I couldn't sit still during the process and cut my time short because I really wanted to enjoy my day. I did enjoy my day (it was awesome), but I look back at these photos and just feel so ugly. Husband has agreed that we'll have another photo shoot on our first year anniversary in which he'll rent his tux again and i'll get back in my dress, have my hair and makeup done, etc. so soon enough I'll have gorgeous photos to reflect on which is every bride's dream.
I haven't gained weight, but I do seem to look... Bad. It's like I'm not aging well and I don't know what else to do about it. I feel lost and ugly. I feel like I need to change my diet and exercise and beauty regime, but I'm lost as to where to start. I want to make a change before this issue turns into an actual problem and I'm a whale.
In sum, I really have nothing to complain about. But I feel so sad. So lost. Like I don't know what's left in my life. Do I just need a new goal? New hobby? Is this a mid life crisis?
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