what i noticed is that sometimes when we find someone there is one thing that really draws us to them. whether it be their musical talent, or them being charming, their job whatever. but after a while thats the same exact thing that bugs us.

like my ex was an awesome drummer. but i learned that the reason he was so awesome was because thats all he cared about. (me included)

or my abusive ex. he was sooo charming. but because he was so charming he gots girls all the time. and i mean all the time. and was a total partier and his drinking is what lead him to hit me.

get what im saying? my boyfriend now is one of the nice guys. doesnt cheat, would never lie to me, doesnt smoke, doesnt drink hardly ever. kindof a nerd lol. which normally would turn me off. but i learned that thats what i need. and his personality and how good of a person he is is why i love him.

opposites attract but they also end up badly sometimes. i go for the "good guy" now and its worked out much better and with much luch bruising and crying plus he has helped me majorly in getting over my issues with men.