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Originally Posted by magicalprince
Lately I found a T who has little to no reactions and gives little to no input. And I keep wondering if that makes any sense. I can't imagine spending much time with someone like that in everyday life. .... unless we had a job to get done, then I could imagine it. And I suppose, in therapy we have a job to get done, so maybe it does make sense.
But then, the one thing I find it really hard to mention or even identify within me is any personal feelings about the T herself. She is practically like a non-entity. She is again also not structuring or guiding the therapy whatsoever. Everything that happens is always 100% on my initiative. So I still don't know that that feels right either. Even with blank slate Ts, is it like that for other people?
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Your current T sounds more on the "blank slate" extreme side of the spectrum than mine, at least by a bit. Mine does react to stories I tell and does sometimes have a look of concern on his face (which is how I know I feel like reassuring him instead of continuing, when that happens). He is also friendly, has warm body language, and is gentle and kind. But he is very, very consistent... the same guy every session. That doesn't leave a lot of opportunity for me to do emotional care-taking. But neither does it feel cold or impersonal. On a handful of occasions his emotions have leaked through more than usual, and I kind of treasure those moments, but at the same time if he showed me those feelings more often I would probably start editing what I was saying toward the managing of his emotional state.
Can you talk with this T about her style? Maybe she can adjust it?