I feel like I might be faced with the same thing with my mother someday. She abandoned me when I was 15 because her husband didn't want me and continues to choose him over me. They both have AIDS, but he is a lot further advanced than she is and doesn't take good care of himself. Both my mother and I are on SSI, so not like I'm better off than she is or anything, but when he dies she won't be able to survive on her own. I mean, even when I was a child she couldn't survive without the help of her mother, my wonderful grandmother. She's burned bridges with everyone else in the family. I have a feeling it will be me she comes to.

So, I understand...but I wish I had better answers for you.