I'm going to put my 2 cents in (probably about what it's worth, too!). I don't think he should have poked you in the forehead twice (or even once for that matter!). That was not very nice and seems to me to be aggressive behavior. If my H ever laid a hand or a finger on me, I'd be upset too. So pretty much, he started the whole thing and deserved to know he started the whole thing! Not giving you money for food THE NEXT FLIPPIN DAY???.... that was also just plain mean and controlling.
Couples counselling for sure and don't have any kids with him until this is fixed. Big hug and I'm sorry this is happening to you. Christian values don't mean subservient behavior, IMHO anyway.