She reminds me of my mother, and not in a good way at all. My mother was a similar way inclined, and I'm mostly grateful she's not been a part of my life for many a year. I'd leave her to her own business for a while until she comes to her senses, if she even does. She should know better than to abandon her kid like that because of something so inconsequential. Maybe she's just not well, acting like that. Based on what you've written there, I wanna say that I don't think you've done anything wrong. I'm not voting, because I don't support either option, frankly.

What does your dad say about all this? Also, if that's how your mother behaves, I don't blame you for going to your dad. My mother had a habit of making a mountain out of a molehill and making everything about her, while simultaneously putting me so far down I felt worthless; needlesss to say, it had longterm negative affects on me.

I'm not religious, and I don't think I'm especially spiritual, so I'm sorry if my words caused offense. Also, it sounds more like she's hurting you.

Oh, one last thing: do you have a spiritual guide of sorts you can speak to about this? Someone you can be confidential with. I'm not familiar with your religion so I'm not sure how that works, but if you have someone like that for spiritual guidance, perhaps it could help?