Thank you so much sheezyks and Ichbinkeinteufel you have both given me comfort and left me at ease.

My mum felt better the next day and I had a talk to her. She wants me to engage her in all my worries or problems or anything that occurred in my day, as she said "I want you to tell me everything, you don't have to but I want you to". I feel a bit restricted and worried if I had taken this path as I don't feel it's nessessary and unhealthy because her advice is somewhat judging me on what I have to do or what I should be like or what I didn't do.

Our house is a unit with no privacy, as I study in mums room and sleep in dads room. Mum wants to be included but I want my privacy and I don't feel comfortable sharing my struggles with her as she tends to make me doubt myself.

She does want me to talk to her nicer and feel that she is right, I just have to communicate to her in a nicer way without feeling contrôlée my her as my decision are limited by her demands.

I also feel that I should be stratigic when talking to someone else in the house to not let my mum see me talking to them as this might cause more tensions.

It's hard to let my mum know that me telling her everything is unhealthy for the both of us. I know she wants to because she feels a sense of motherhood and she herself used to tell her mum everything at night to her mum.

I feel I need to seek other peoples guidance and attention when I'm struggling.

My dad would not be the best person I would tell about my mum, I think I would get in trouble my my mum and dad. I'm 23 at uni and living at home. My mum is 54 and has a childcare centre at home and my dad is 74 working at the laundry in nursing home from 5.00am to 3.00pm my councillor is far away and I have uni work + 3 new jobs so im unable to fit coucelling in right know.

How would u approach ur mum in this situation?