hon you have kids by this man. in my opinion it would be good for you to be there for your kids if nothing else. I think when people are as sick as he apparently is they want to know they are forgiven whatever bad they did in their past. maybe there are some things inside you that you thought you had dealt with but maybe haven't completely let go of. go with jerry as a couple. let this man know you are happy. take care of you too though hon.