I am 30 years old and met a girl (who is bipolar) 3 years ago. We lived in New York City. The relationship began by us going out on a couple of dates. Things were well for the first 4 weeks or so. She slept with me quite early in the relationship - on second date. I didn't think anything at the time negatively about this. Around week 5 or so I noticed her getting very frustrated and upset with me about small things. She would get much more mad and angry than a "normal" girl would get wihr me only a few weeks into a new relationship. I sarcastically said one day "you're acting bipolar"- this is when she told me she was bipolar and her father is bipolar as well. At this time I made a decision that I wouldn't let myself get into a serious relationship with her. I did not voice this to her though. We continued to see each other and hook up but the traditional dates stopped. We basically were hooking up and we're friends HOWEVER she very strongly waned to date me. She would get frustrated and say she wanted to be in a relationship with me and I would tell her I was not ready for a relationship. We went on like this for about a year. Always staying in touch with one another- texting and talking all the time. Great connection. But me resisting the relationship because of the bipolar state.

One year into this relationship I moved to Florida for a job. She was devistated. But we stayed in touch. We text almost every day. Now, today, we are 3 years into this relationship. Two years of being apart and texting and taking all the time. Not dating - just a real connection. I have visited her twice in the two years I've been gone. She's dated other people- but I have not. She has been telling me for about two years that she loves me and that I'm her soul mate, etc. but we're not dating. I always say that's inappropriate to say but she says she doesn't care and that it's the truth and she is going to say it.

I now realize that I'm falling in love with her. Our connection is so real. BUT there are a couple of small things that I feel are off and I don't know if it's a bad idea to fall in love with a bipolar partner. Her sex drive gets very strong at times when she is "manic". She tells me about sexual encounters- she will just find someone a sleep with them for like two days. It's not normal. She will disappear and not answer her phone for a day or so sometimes. It's always after she's out partying in the city at njfht and then disappears the following day.

I've opened up to her about my feelings in the last month. She wants me to move back to New York so we can start a relationship. She tells me that she will stop the sexual encounters if she's with me in a relationship with me living there.

I'm a normal guy who has tremendous capacity to love. I just don't want to get hurt. I'm not familiar with how the bipolar mind operates. I just need genuine advice on how a bipolar mind works and if I can trust her. I love this girl but I can turn away at this point if I really should before it's too late.

FYI her medication that she takes is ability with lamictal. She also has vyvance I'm not sure the frequency that she takes that.