I am sorry you are hurting. Why don't you go home for few days and take care of your business. Maybe call his nurses or doctors or social worker etc and tell them he isn't all right and you are gone home.

I understand you feel he cannot manage without you. I know the feeling. In reality he'll find ways to manage. My grandma used to say that "all unreplaceable people are dead". Meaning life goes on and everyone survives even if some people aren't in the picture anymore.

She didn't really refer to relationship but more like to work/employment. But regardless, people can manage. If they can't they will call 911 or go to ER. Now leaving a minor child to fend for himself would be wrong. Grown man not so much.

Now I understand you feel responsibility so you can come for an hour or a few and clean up, cook and go home. You don't really need to be there all the time ( unless You like his company but it doesn't sound like it). When taking care of sick family member, we come and go unless we move them in. Otherwise it doesn't seem necessary to be there all day every day.


Have you considered stopping being there all the time and only come to complete tasks?