No flack from me. I offered to leave,she asked me to stay for the sake of our child. We could go back and forth about cheating. I don't have sex with the Dominatrix although there is intimacy. The bottom line is my wife can't satisfy my sexual masochism. I have had this since I was 12 and I'm not willing to dampen it down. We both have very good jobs,nice house,child goes to private school. Deep down my wife likes the security she has or she wouldn't have stopped me from leaving. This is the best way forward until my child is 18 in my opinion. Others my disagree but they aren't in my situation. And for the record if my wife came to me and told me she liked to get beat by dominant men and I couldn't do it,I would give my blessing to go see a male dominant to handle it with the understanding of no sex.