I use to want to be T's lover. She and I both female, and I'm a middle aged married mother and she is a middle aged mother. Eventually the "eroticism" faded, as my emotional needs got met. Can you imagine a 3yr old having consious sexual feelings? Mix that with the attachment needs a child has and it all becomes a real mix of feelings. I think thats all thats about, the 3yr inside us also now has adult sexual awareness and attachment triggers all, its not really a "i love you truely" sexual thing, its just like being touched in the right place by anyone blindfolded and the body will respond??