um a few things from your post jumps out at me but they all boil down to much of what you posted actually rules ...out.... a diagnosis of DID based on the new and presently used diagnostics... something else that jumps out at me is that your friend has been very clearly putting distance between the two of you. which tells me its time to give her space and maybe not be in contact with her at your pace but rather you wait for her to contact you. take things at her pace rather than worrying about trying to fix her, or trying to diagnose her or what ever it is that you are asking us. (your post has so many things in it Im not sure what you are looking for)

another suggestion is if you have a treatment provider of your own maybe you can talk with your own treatment providers to help you deal with all this confusion in your life as a result of being friends with a mentally disordered person. if she really does have these things and you are already having all these problems dealing with it its probably a good thing the relationship is cooling down for a bit. it will give you both a chance to work with your treatment providers.