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Originally Posted by seesaw
You point blank said that when she told you she was bipolar that you decided you would not get into a serious relationship with her, yet you did not tell her this, and yet you continued to see her and have sex with her while she voiced her desire for something more. Also, you say that she slept with you kind of early, on the second date...do you have no responsibility in that? You slept with her on the 2nd date too. YOu have control over your own body and saying no if it's too early, but you didn't.
I'm calling it like I see it: you led this girl on. The least you could have done is from the outset say, I only want a sexual relationship, I will never date you or be interested romantically. And let her decide if she could live with that.
You say you have this strong connection, but I'm sorry, I feel like you've acted very poorly towards her. I agree that you are stereotyping her as others have commented.
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I couldn't have said that better.
This girl didn't do anything wrong. You judged her early, decided not to tell her that you were not interested in a relationship for a while.... And you're judging her for sleeping around. When she is single.
Talthy, I disagree with you - there is nothing in the OP to indicate that this girl hasn't been honest with him. The opposite in fact- when he used stigma to insult her when she was angry, she told him flat out that she has bipolar. That is being honest. The only dishonesty we have seen has been from the OP.
And you're saying that it might be hard for her to settle into a "boring traditional routine"? Based on her behaving like plenty of young people by having one night stands? Who is to say she doesn't want a "boring traditional" relationship? That is quite the assumption that is feeding in to the OPs stereotypes.
I have bipolar. I am not crazy. In fact I'm one of the most level-headed people I know. I am a very monogamous person- even when hypomanic. So making implications that it is hard to settle into a "boring traditional" relationship is just plain insulting. She isn't behaving out of the norm here, at all. Not for this generation.
The only abnormal behaviour in the OP is the fact that the OP made an extreme judgement, was not honest about his intentions, led her on so that he could continue having sex when she wanted a relationship, and views her sex life as abnormal.