Ah. Sorry to hear that.

Like I said before, I have been through a codependent dynamic with a therapist and fortunately I was able to step back and stop that pattern before it got really out of control.

Even after that, I still always wanted to make it work somehow. But just because I had changed doesn't mean she has changed equally much. She just wasn't ready to change.

I refused to stay stuck on that level, I tried to be vulnerable and honest, and it was too much for her. So in the end I lost her, totally and completely from my life, and felt like I was being punished for doing the right thing. I only ever wanted what was best for both of us. I still want that and still miss her and deeply deeply care for her. But I mean, I can't change her.

I know how painful it is and how hard it is to step back and really ask yourself if what's happening is healthy. but I hope you can ultimately figure out what feels right for you.