My wife and I have been married for thirteen years and I feel like we are going backwards. She has been diagnosed with depression and anxiety. These are not new to me and I knew what I was in for before we got married. Last year we spent time in the hospital because she was comptiplating suicide. All in all a year later she is doing much better but making decisions I thought she never would. She started drinking casually with friends and kept it from me for a little while. A few days ago she came home after work and had gotten her first tattoo with out even talking to me. I know she is her own person but her decisions and views on life have changed completely. I know communication is a big part of this and our mural agreements have come to a stop. I'm not into the drinking or the tattoo and am really struggling on what to do. Please help. Ask me questions don't just judge please.