In my case, my t encouraged the dependency. I allowed myself to become very dependent on her. I don't think either of us are to blame, persay, but we both contributed to the dependency.

ETA: Nevermind -- I do blame my t for the dependency issue for the most part. Sure, I fell for it so I blame myself, too. Mostly I blame her. It's been super hard to get out of this emotional dependency on her. Your t should have least taken the time to talk more about the dependency, the good reasons why you need to work to let go of it, and healthy ways to work to let go of it.