I have a very strong desire and tendency for autonomy and independence, so it is virtually impossible to manipulate me into one-sided dependency. (I am saying one-sided as I do engage in mutual relationships where both parties rely on the other in work collaborations and in some way, in intimate relationships). My first T tried to manipulate me that way though... even criticized me when it did not work (it was actually highly repulsive for me), saying that I had attachment issues (avoidant tendencies). He tried in different ways, including telling me he wanted to serve a nurturing role that I did not receive from my mother in childhood... I found the latter ridiculous, especially the way it was presented to me (for example, he would say he sent me encouraging emails to provide some kind of maternal nurture).

It is true that I have dismissive/avoidant streaks but, for me, the way to work on that is not in therapy so much, more in everyday relationships. Current T has never tried to foster dependency, he is very respectful and non-judgmental about my boudaries and decisions as to how much attachment and in what form I desire in therapy.

I agree with lolagrace that it's not about blaming anyone... Ts try different things and we react to them. Also, by default many Ts put a lot of emphasis on the relationship and on the client's attachment issues, they like to work on those things. A client does not need to comply with whatever they don't want.