I found out something about my boyfriend that made me feel hurt and betrayed. A little background: we had a traumatic break up/broken engagement where we were apart for a little over 2 years, then got back together for the past few months.
He was working hard to regain my trust back, and I was cautious. Recently, I found myself finally getting attached again, more trusting, and happy that he is back in my life. He always goes out of his way to express how much he loves me, so when I found out he was hiding things from me, I flipped out and left his house. When I flipped out, it was really bad. If I type how I reacted here, it might trigger, so I won't. I was also angry that he said he can't promise to change what bothers me. I won't get into specifics, because it'll make me more emotional.
He is a very affectionate person. He always goes out of his way to express how he loves and cares for me, which makes it tempting to get sucked in. I can't allow that to happen since I made a decision that I can't go back to such an unhealthy situation. It's bad enough I'm Bipolar and not in the best place. This morning, I texted him that I need time and space when he made an attempt to tell me how much he loves me and how he's sorry.
Tonight, he made another attempt by sending memes with sweet messages about how he misses me. These things play on my emotions. I know eventually I'll have to get on the phone and talk to him, but I'm not ready for having such an emotional conversation. Would it be the healthiest choice to not respond to his texting attempts and apologies until I'm in a better place emotionally?
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