Hello Nahaira87: Hm-m-m-m... I don't know about this. (By the way, I should confess that I am an old man. So perhaps I'm not the best member here to be replying to this post.) But my inclination is to say this is just the way most men are. They tend to be uncomfortable with the kind of intimacy you're talking about.

From what you wrote, you tried the direct approach & that apparently fell flat. You may simply have to accept that your man is who he is & not try to come up with ways to change him. Beyond that perhaps just try to find opportunities to "model" (demonstrate) the kinds of behaviors / activities you'd like to see from your husband. Don't announce that you're doing it & don't try to create opportunities for it to happen. Just do it spontaneously as the opportunity arises. Over time, your hubby may begin to get the idea.