Lefty! Straddle him and look into his eyes! Love it.

So, with all due disclosure, I have never been married. I have had long-term relationships though. However, I don't think I have to be married to be able to give relationship advice--because this is about fulfilling each other's needs, and that happens in all kinds of relationships, not just romantic ones.

So, anyways, he's uncomfortable being intimate in that way. In what ways is he comfortable being intimate? Can you make plans for those so that he can give you intimacy in the way he is comfortable?

I will admit that when former partners have wanted things of me that I was not comfortable with, I put my foot down. I don't think anyone should be forced or asked to do something that makes them uncomfortable. That said, I also think that he should recognize that some romantic intimacy is important to you and find a way to fulfill that need that doesn't make him feel uncomfortable.

So maybe you can think of things he has done successfully that made you feel fulfilled in this way and try and do those types of things more?

good luck,
seesaw