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Nov 06, 2016, 10:36 PM
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Member Since: Apr 2014
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Rose76,
I have now read all the replies, and the additional information you have given. I would say your BF is quite abusive--emotionally and verbally, in my opinion. I'm sure with your background you are familiar with the condition of codependency. I think your relationship is very codependent and unhealthy. I know you say you "signed up for this," but you do not have to settle the rest of your life to live with a man who has used and taken and abused you for 30 some odd years.
You need to do what you need to do to take care of you.
I know it sounds like you are committed to staying with him. But I'm just saying that I wouldn't judge you harshly if you did leave him and let him get put in a home. It frankly sounds like the best place for him.
Can you check out a CODA (codependents anonymous) meeting in your area? I think that would really help you get some support and learn some strategies for not getting sucked into the abuse of his mindset.
I hope things get better for you.
seesaw
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Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder
Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia.
Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien
Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less...
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