I'm so glad you two are doing better!

& I'm sorry about your history :\ I hope you are able to find peace. I don't know if you are into this stuff, my sometimes if I'm struggling with a tramatic event that had happened to me, I read up on the Buddhist perspective. Here's a link....In the middle of this long excerpt there is a section for "Emotions Around Sexual Abuse". I don't know if it will help you, as the concept this particular article is very hard to swallow. But, sometimes it helps me.

http://buddhism.kalachakranet.org/de...oneliness.html