Hi -

When i'm with my girlfriend, I can get an erection pretty easily when we kiss or make out. But the second our thoughts turn to the bedroom and we intend to have sex, I go completely limp. And I can never get it back.

I don't think this is a simple case of ED. Although I've 100% always wanted a girlfriend and have liked no one other than girls, I've never really been into sex; growing up I was actually much more sexually stimulated by certain BDSM fetishes than I was normal "porn" (in fact, I find normal porn gross). So although I very much love my girlfriend and am sexually attracted to her, I just don't seem to have the sexual drive necessary to please her in the 'normal' fashion.

Am I completely screwed? Would an ED medication help?