I don't trust my husband with my sister. We covered this before with the marriage counselor. She said my sister needs to get her own man.

My sister says she needs a husband, but acts like she expects someone else to get him for her. On the other hand, she seems to think my husband is the perfect man and flirts with him.

I've called her on this before, and she goes manic, literally. I told her how I also feel hurt when she knows what a difficult time I've had with my in-laws and she comes over and tells my husband how neat they are and how much she likes them.

No one in my life cares. They only care that I act nice and have them over for the holidays. Same with my husband.

Saturday I heard my sister and husband flirting. I instantly went to that powerless place, tempted to stay in my room and be miserable. Instead I took a Xanax and went out.

My sister was stroaking her hair and talking. She wouldn't make eye contact with me. I tried something different and mimiced her body language, stroking my hair, etc. I could see that this was bringing her up short. I also saw that my husband wanted to make eye contact with me, wondering what the heck I was doing. (I'm willing to give him the benefit of the doubt because the counselor said he has no idea of the undercurrents that occur with a sibling.)

Just the fact that I'm wrestling with this issue distresses my husband. He sees himself as a victim. And he sees how my sister sees him as wonderful. Who wouldn't prefer her?

I'm just overwhelmed. I thought sharing this would help. I know I need to see the marriage counselor, but she moved out of the area. Plus it takes years to get a counselor to believe that I know what I'm talking about. I want to scream.