In this country I can. The mortgage is in both names but hes never contributed one iota. If he should refuse to sell it is possible to get a court order. However I am pretty sure he wouldnt want the house anyway.

I honestly think its way past marriage counselling. He would need to get help for his mental health issues first. His OCD has really revved up since I told him, one of his irrational fears is taking any medication. He cant swallow any tablets without choking. I even buy kids tylenol for him.
What I want is peace and quiet and a clean house that doesnt smell. Unfortunately unlike many with an OCD he has an aversion to washing his hands - I'm talking about chopping woods, feeding cats and dogs, newspaper ink, eating spare ribs and using the bathroom all without washing his hands then expecting intimacy. Puke