Thank you for the info. My DD who's 12 was diagnosed with it & fits in every criteria although these explosions in anger only happen at home. In school she does get very sullen.
She shows signs of SI but keeps herself very well covered.
She's extremely self centered which just might be her age, but I've always noticed her inability to show sympathy or an understanding of someone else's feelings. She's clueless.
And vindictive! Very much so especially toward her younger sister. She lashes out & does hurt her, but her sister does tease her sometimes so I have to take that into consideration.

She has encopresis which weighs heavily into this. She's been working w/a T for 3 yrs now & we've not seen any improvement in the encopresis, but her explosions are getting further apart.
My husband just doesn't understand any of it & actually makes it worse. He thinks she's "faking all this drama." So I feel like I have to take sides.
I hate this power dynamic that holds onto this house every single day. It hurts my other children too.