I took my T on somewhat, on the phone following termination. It was sketchy and bit risky. But the last of these couple of phone calls was the most significant part of the entire process. She broke down, confessed a few things, and most importantly I took back some power by speaking to her in a direct way, made sure she understood the truth.

It doesn't have to be so black and white. The choices are not just to drop the whole thing completely, or to get caught in some protracted battle.