I think you need to speak to potential therapists in person and discuss these matters one-on-one. I suspect they may be wary from your email that you may expect rather loose boundaries from them.

You have to remember that your old therapist found his loose boundaries didn't work with you after awhile, and when he tightened down on them, things went very badly. Trying to recreate what you had with your old T (which didn't work and ended up disastrously) may not be the best plan. Perhaps to avoid the same pitfalls, a different style or different boundaries might be to your benefit. Just a thought, but I know you realize what went wrong previously so it so it might be important to consider what needs to happen differently this time so that your therapy is more effective for you.