Thread: Role reversal
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Old Nov 07, 2016, 06:26 PM
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Originally Posted by magicalprince View Post
Yeah though I see this as an issue I have with her herself, not with therapy. Therapy is just an excuse. She would have done this in any other relationship with a similarly contradictory excuse. I mean there's legitimate reasons she would feel like this relationship was too much but it's like, can't fix it by pretending it doesn't exist. I will give it to this whole experience that it has taught me to be honest with myself about what I expect from any given circumstances. It's my fault for tempting a married woman. And it's her fault she let it happen. This is why I shouldn't be ranting, I was just as guilty as she was. It still hurts though, feelings are just like that...
Maybe so, re: was about her as a person. I guess it depends how much of a the real person behind the therapist persona is actually present in the room. I don't feel at fault, except a little. I was set up. Therapy is extremely seductive on many levels. I am pissed at myself for lack of awareness about the process at the time, but that doesn't change the fact that I was ensnared. There was no consent. Lot of covert weirdness. The power imbalance is enormous. I think therapists own almost all responsibility for failures. The client is paying for the privilege of simply expressing feelings and needs. Anyway I don't blame my therapist. The system or construct is the issue.