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Originally Posted by Nocter
I think it is about attachment. I see people here emailing, sending sms, meeting their therapist outside sessiong, getting hugs, worrying about their personal life, and I am like WTF. and I come from a dysfunctional family and have a lot of trauma, sexual absue, phyisical abuse, emotiotional abuse, neglect to the point doctors thought I was autistic as a kid, and still I don't understand it.
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Therapy is extremely seductive. There is also an enormous disparity in terms of emotional exposure, and that naturally leads to dependency, especially if the client is in crisis. Also, seems that certain therapists bring this out in certain clients, because their tone of voice, body language, appearance, demeanor fits with the client's unmet early needs like a key in a lock.
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Originally Posted by Nocter
Maybe it's because I see my relationship with my therapist the same as I my dentist or the guy of the pet store. If the dentisit or the guy of the pet store suddendly stop working I would be a bit dissapointed because I liked him but that's all.
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THere is a reason that therapy ethics codes have to include obsessive reminders about prohibitions on sexual misconduct. It's completely different from other professional relationships. In other professional relationships, there is a service of skill or technical knowledge being purchased. In therapy you are purchasing a relationship.