I've been with my husband for 14 years, married for 10. We've had our ups and downs but we are very happily married. He is my best friend, my lover, my most trusted confidant....the first person I would call in case of emergency and I would miss him even if we were only apart for a day. People often say we act like newlyweds. There are no promises it will always be like this or that we will always be together. People do change and grow apart. You deserve to be happy and I support whatever decision you make to get you in a happier place. Things don't sound like they are as happy or healthy as they should be. Are you trying new things to spark the relationship or do you feel you are past that point?