Hi DelusionsDaily
We thought it was worth a go. Asking for closure is step one. With gloves on. If that doesn't work we go to step Two with gloves off. He would be seriously foolish to let it escalate that far. It could mean him losing his other job which he needs financially. And it would be an awful way to end a career. This man is unhinged.
I might not want to see him even if he does agree to some closure sessions. I mean, I would probably stand there and verbally tear him to shreds. Which is what he truly deserves.
The only way closure would work for me is if he profusely deeply apologised, in tears, for what he did and then try to mend it.
Not one of you nor me can know if he is capable of this. I have seen him apologise before, he is capable of seeing his mistakes but this might be such a u-turn in his current mind state that he may not be capable of it.
I have lost respect for him. I also see him as incredibly foolish. I see him as driven by emotions that he cannot control and will one day look back and be ashamed of himself, if not already.
My supportive mental health advocate is not setting me up with false hope, he is just taking it in a graduated way. If step one doesn't work (the most sane and sensible solution to this mess) then we go to Step Two which is formal complaint and if that doesn't work we go to Step three which is litigation and damages. so it is just sensible to try the gentlest approach first.