People treat us the way we teach them. He treats you poorly because you allow it. He isn't speaking to you and knows you sit around waiting. That's ridiculous. He treats you poorly yet you think he is a great guy. Do you see a therapist? You don't think you deserve better than this?

Like crazy hitch said not too many women put up with this. You do. He has no reason to ever improve. He is on and off bad boyfriend, not like you are married and. have 5 kids together and can't leave. This is not going to get better.

I would stop analyzing why he is this way but start analyzing why are you ok with it?