This needs to be a decision you feel is right for you and not for the approval of others. Believe me, no one is going to award you a medal.

Bu, if the answer is that you wish to do this for you then I think you deserve a pat on the back.

For the dating website thing, that is another matter that I think differently with you on. You can't expect that there is the perfect someone who will meet every single item you want. I think your expectations may be too high. Besides, differences can be quite healthy. I believe a relationship that is 100% in agreement would be quite boring. A great deal of a relationship is based on sharing one another's interests.

So what if you find an otherwise great guy who doesn't share your interest in music. As long as you are prepared to make your own concession to him that is what is the important thing.

It's not about molding a partner to your liking. It's also about molding yourself to theirs.