thank you everyone.

I realize such an important milestone birthday is also important and significant to my father (it's not every day one's child reaches 50). I understand he wants to celebrate it with me.

I recently reitered my wishes to my boyfriend without, I hope, letting on I am aware of the party. I did so in the hope that he will contact my dad and suggest the event be called off. Gosh I hope this is so.

I have even thought of making a Facebook post reminding friends and family to respect my wishes.

In the meantime I have been practising the best smile I can muster up.