I feel like I've lived through a no-win struggle with my h. But we always had so much good together aside from that issue. Now I am trying to control my attitude about the relationship with acceptance and not focusing on our problems, but finding more happiness in other things, within myself.

Personally, I don't really have any good role models. My h's parents have been happily married for a life time, but they are totally simple folk with no expectations and absolutely, completely boring.