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Originally Posted by Reseacher12345
I feel you. Honestly I go through the same thing. I eventually break off my relationships when it gets too much.
It sounds like you found someone worth the stress tho. Just be careful. I'm not saying she will leave you, but acting like we do is definitely a stress factor for the other person. Maybe vent to another person occasionally will give her a break sometimes when she needs it most.
Something that sorta helps me is planning something special for someone. If you're super excited to share something with her (be it concert tickets a few months in advance, reservations to a fancy restaurant that's impossible to get into, or family event you plan to bring her to) sometimes that little reminder that there is a landmark event you have to stay together for, closer than the looming "forever", helps.
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Thanks for the reply and I'm glad (not necessarily a good thing) that you feel how I do and I've broken off relationships because it got to be too much on myself too. It's hard to find someone else to listen because she listens best of all, even if it's me being crazy and throwing scenarios at her of what I think she'd do or won't do and she listens, supports me and tells me what needs to be said.
Funny you mention planning something special, because I do that often despite me being anxious so much. Last weekend we went to Salem for 3 days for our first "vacation" and it was amazing. She surprised me with a photo album of the trip and left it at my house while I was at work with a note saying how closer it made us. But this Monday is apparently some "super moon" full moon and I told her last night I wanted to take her somewhere so we could see it, a big reason why is she is into astrology and is a Cancer so I thought she would appreciated it.